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The part with Daniel's fake impression of your voice was hilarious!
I love how he dead panned that it's how you really sound! Interestingly, it sounds
much like how he thinks his own voice sounds when he hears it, as demonstrated on
a Saturday podcast a few weeks ago.:)
Richard Pryor's widow's interview sounds like it'll be interesting.
I'm interested to hear what she said about Bill Cosby.
I actually have a Nurse Practitioner as my primary care person
and I'm fine with that, but if I was dealing
with something more serious or complicated, I agree that I'd want a MD to be the
one speaking with authority, not a nurse or even a PA. This nurse sounds like she
needs to pipe down and stop thinking that she knows everything, because she clearly
doesn't.
No, we did not hear the burp.:)
I don't understand why people are complaining about you guys
talking about Wendy.
I appreciated both yours and Daniel's thoughtful comments regarding drug use and drug
addiction and the culture surrounding it.
I don't mind what days the shows come out on as long as it's
a consistent schedule that I can look forward to.
The part with Daniel’s fake impression of your voice was hilarious!
I love how he dead panned that it’s how you really sound! Interestingly, it sounds
much like how he thinks his own voice sounds when he hears it, as demonstrated on
a Saturday podcast a few weeks ago.:)
Richard Pryor’s widow’s interview sounds like it’ll be interesting.
I’m interested to hear what she said about Bill Cosby.
I actually have a Nurse Practitioner as my primary care person
and I’m fine with that, but if I was dealing
with something more serious or complicated, I agree that I’d want a MD to be the
one speaking with authority, not a nurse or even a PA. This nurse sounds like she
needs to pipe down and stop thinking that she knows everything, because she clearly
doesn’t.
No, we did not hear the burp.:)
I don’t understand why people are complaining about you guys
talking about Wendy.
I appreciated both yours and Daniel’s thoughtful comments regarding drug use and drug
addiction and the culture surrounding it.
I don’t mind what days the shows come out on as long as it’s
a consistent schedule that I can look forward to.
This fertility clinic continues to make me ever so cheesed off with their bedside manner / lack thereof.
Alison, one thing I have heard from a lot of friends and relatives (and on the interwebs) is that when you are pregnant / planning your labor and delivery and such, it's really, really, really important to advocate for yourself and your wishes. There are a lot of docs and hospitals that will pressure you into doing things their way (the way that is easiest for the doctor but not necessarily for you or your baby). I think now, with this IVF stuff on the horizon, is a good time to start practicing your “No. That doesn't work for me” type statements. Seriously! Try 'em out on some of the over-confident smack talking nurses. You are the consumer and you have every right to receive good and competent healthcare advice and service – especially with this pay outta pocket get up. If someone cannot accept assertiveness, it's on them – not you.
Re: The Twelve Steps – just want to tell you that you don't have to qualify your statements. Like, ever. Not about 12 steps, not about drinking, not about anything. All of your experiences and feelings are valid and you are the last person anyone would ever think of as trying to say someone that isn't genuine or a one upper or something. Us ladies are socialized to qualify our statements, but we don't have to 🙂 Also, there are other programs for people who struggle with addiction (of any kind), and while 12 steps is popular, it's not for everyone. Some dive in and love it and it is amazing, some dabble in it and get a few take-aways, some use other programs. The important thing is that people know there is help available and that ALL people are worthy of help no matter what and even if it is their 459th time seeking help they are still worth it and always will be.
This fertility clinic continues to make me ever so cheesed off with their bedside manner / lack thereof.
Alison, one thing I have heard from a lot of friends and relatives (and on the interwebs) is that when you are pregnant / planning your labor and delivery and such, it’s really, really, really important to advocate for yourself and your wishes. There are a lot of docs and hospitals that will pressure you into doing things their way (the way that is easiest for the doctor but not necessarily for you or your baby). I think now, with this IVF stuff on the horizon, is a good time to start practicing your “No. That doesn’t work for me” type statements. Seriously! Try ’em out on some of the over-confident smack talking nurses. You are the consumer and you have every right to receive good and competent healthcare advice and service – especially with this pay outta pocket get up. If someone cannot accept assertiveness, it’s on them – not you.
Re: The Twelve Steps – just want to tell you that you don’t have to qualify your statements. Like, ever. Not about 12 steps, not about drinking, not about anything. All of your experiences and feelings are valid and you are the last person anyone would ever think of as trying to say someone that isn’t genuine or a one upper or something. Us ladies are socialized to qualify our statements, but we don’t have to 🙂 Also, there are other programs for people who struggle with addiction (of any kind), and while 12 steps is popular, it’s not for everyone. Some dive in and love it and it is amazing, some dabble in it and get a few take-aways, some use other programs. The important thing is that people know there is help available and that ALL people are worthy of help no matter what and even if it is their 459th time seeking help they are still worth it and always will be.
Agree. It is hard because they set themselves up as the authority and holders of the knowledge. You know those “ask your doctor about X” commercials? Yes it is direct marketing, but it is also because the doctor doesn't know about X. There is nothing magic about doctoring. They start with a very expensive, decent education (backed up by centuries of experimentation on patients) and then get paid a ton of money to experiment on patients learn from the patients. They are at the same time way overqualified and unqualified to do what they do. This makes a lot of them arrogant pricks. Some are bright people who actually listen. Try to find those. The others will fold like a napkin at the first sign of assertiveness. You'll know they are about to fold and that you've won when they start to get short and defensive.
For someone who has had basically no health problems I have tons of healthcare stories. One good one was my wife was considering donating a kidney. The hospital had us spend an hour with the “consultant,” the lady who makes sure we won't sue them and makes sure recipients have reliable insurance. Luckily since you can't be paid for your organs there is a shortage so donors don't get too hassled on the insurance front. But they really wanted to make sure we weren't litigious. Next came talking to the surgeon. After 5 minutes asking rudimentary questions he abruptly said “if you aren't comfortable with this then you shouldn't do it.” Bottom line is he had plenty of people to get to who wouldn't ask questions. Almost everything in doctoring is set up for monetization, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Here's a video about the fertility clinic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?…
Agree. It is hard because they set themselves up as the authority and holders of the knowledge. You know those “ask your doctor about X” commercials? Yes it is direct marketing, but it is also because the doctor doesn’t know about X. There is nothing magic about doctoring. They start with a very expensive, decent education (backed up by centuries of experimentation on patients) and then get paid a ton of money to experiment on patients learn from the patients. They are at the same time way overqualified and unqualified to do what they do. This makes a lot of them arrogant pricks. Some are bright people who actually listen. Try to find those. The others will fold like a napkin at the first sign of assertiveness. You’ll know they are about to fold and that you’ve won when they start to get short and defensive.
For someone who has had basically no health problems I have tons of healthcare stories. One good one was my wife was considering donating a kidney. The hospital had us spend an hour with the “consultant,” the lady who makes sure we won’t sue them and makes sure recipients have reliable insurance. Luckily since you can’t be paid for your organs there is a shortage so donors don’t get too hassled on the insurance front. But they really wanted to make sure we weren’t litigious. Next came talking to the surgeon. After 5 minutes asking rudimentary questions he abruptly said “if you aren’t comfortable with this then you shouldn’t do it.” Bottom line is he had plenty of people to get to who wouldn’t ask questions. Almost everything in doctoring is set up for monetization, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Here’s a video about the fertility clinic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2yS_LTGosdc
Hi Alison and Daniel! I wanted to let you know that I have done injectables with IUI (not IVF) and it worked with our daughter! The injectable needle did not hurt, it is small, but the drug that was injected into my body did burn a little. It's not bad though! I also had my husband do it, which I would recommend so you (Alison) don't have to worry if your getting the angle in weird or if your kind of skittish of doing it yourself. Is it up to you on whether you would rather skip this process and go straight to IVF, just letting you know that doing the injectables with IUI isn't that bad. 🙂 Kari L.
Hi Alison and Daniel! I wanted to let you know that I have done injectables with IUI (not IVF) and it worked with our daughter! The injectable needle did not hurt, it is small, but the drug that was injected into my body did burn a little. It’s not bad though! I also had my husband do it, which I would recommend so you (Alison) don’t have to worry if your getting the angle in weird or if your kind of skittish of doing it yourself. Is it up to you on whether you would rather skip this process and go straight to IVF, just letting you know that doing the injectables with IUI isn’t that bad. 🙂 Kari L.
Love the weekend show, so interesting to be a part of the fun conversations between you and Daniel! Good luck with the pregnancy journey. It took us awhile too, but we never had to resort to fertility treatments. I had two pregnancies (although one resulted in miscarriage) and yes, the start of them both felt just like a really bad PMS…which lasted for two weeks and then just went away without a period coming. Now as for periods starting to come closer together…that's sign of perimenopause, which I, a few years older than you, have been experiencing for a year now. They first come closer together before they start getting further apart. Ovulation starts going crazy too, so this is a time when many older women have unexpected surprise pregnancies…which may work in your favor, since that's what you want!