The Thursday gang (Alison, Chris Laxamana, Matt Fondiler, Gary Smith and Jenna Kim Jones and Caelan Biehn) discusses Jenna’s trip to New York, Meet the Mormons, accidental twitter follows, perfectly manicured women, shower caps and wilting hair, an awkward conversation at Adam Carolla’s housewarming party, Caelan’s love life, online dating and so much more. We also did a round of Just Me Or Everyone (click here to see the JMOEs from this episode).
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To All:
Good show. Interesting to listen to one and two generations younger than me to get the perspective of how you view life.
Just wanted to let you know, let food cool to room temperature before placing in refrigerator. The refrigerator uses the physical laws of thermodynamics to remove the “heat” from the hot item and exchange it with the cold air generated by compressing freon . You are making your refrig work harder/longer to get the inside box to the set temperature.
Also – when someone steals someone else's “tip” money – that person needs to be called out and shamed in a loud voice. Rookie move on the groups part that you would “fear” the thief “going off” on you as a reason to stay silent. This is a total generational thing. It is similar to stealing a cash tip off a table when walking out of a restaurant. Telling the person after the fact is not cool – unless your willing to whip out the billfold and reimburse the worker.
Keep up the good work – enjoy listening to the conversation.
Also – I do not “tweet” nor do I use “smart phones”. I am 48 year old raising my second family and find the constraints of being “connected” similar to being on house arrest. I ride motorcycles around town and people are amazed that I am not “connected”. Steve McQueen and Paul Newman would never Tweet nor feel the need to be “connected” 24/7. Hope this gives some insight on your Tweeting actions.
Thanks for the forum.
Take careful.
To Alison:
I wish someone would have given me a hint about the taking of your husband's name and how to deal with Post nuptial agreements.
First please legally take your husband's name – it will help solidify the family and also remove your inlaws thoughts about it. You can still “use” your “Rosen” as your stage name / brand as this is affects your income stream.
Second, sit down with an 8.5 notepad and write all of the material things that you brought to the marriage – write down the amount in your savings/checking/investment portfolio and do the same for your husband. Then agree that if things “don't work out” then each of you get back the starting point of the monetary funds. You must also record any debt that you brought to the marriage and agree that you will take that back if things do not “work out”. Then agree to pool all of the money so that you both invest and purchase a home as if you both will celebrate a 50yr anniversary.
The legal problem if you do not do the above, is that CA law states that you must split money 50/50 of all monies earned after marriage and also “comingled” assets. My suggestion will allow the stress to be removed from the resentment of who brought what to the party.
Hope you post this – as I listen to your show and heard you all discussing this – and it seemed that you did not know the reality of the money issue of marriage.
The marriage contract is just that – a business contract. If you do not have things in writing – then you are stuck with the divorce laws – unless you can agree amicably.
Also – in doing this – it frees up the resentment if one of you brings more money to the party at the beginning. You will both then focus on building a life and investments that can be used for the future and you will always know the starting point.
I have done this with my second wife and it made sense. Her school debt was hers – my house was mine – what we grow together after the marriage is “ours”.
Then you can combine the bank accounts and leave each of yourselves a “personal/play” account for buying gifts and for personal vices.-
Without this – your are still living like “roommates with benefits”.
Good luck and take careful – I hope you post this.
To All:
Good show. Interesting to listen to one and two generations younger than me to get the perspective of how you view life.
Just wanted to let you know, let food cool to room temperature before placing in refrigerator. The refrigerator uses the physical laws of thermodynamics to remove the “heat” from the hot item and exchange it with the cold air generated by compressing freon . You are making your refrig work harder/longer to get the inside box to the set temperature.
Also – when someone steals someone else’s “tip” money – that person needs to be called out and shamed in a loud voice. Rookie move on the groups part that you would “fear” the thief “going off” on you as a reason to stay silent. This is a total generational thing. It is similar to stealing a cash tip off a table when walking out of a restaurant. Telling the person after the fact is not cool – unless your willing to whip out the billfold and reimburse the worker.
Keep up the good work – enjoy listening to the conversation.
Also – I do not “tweet” nor do I use “smart phones”. I am 48 year old raising my second family and find the constraints of being “connected” similar to being on house arrest. I ride motorcycles around town and people are amazed that I am not “connected”. Steve McQueen and Paul Newman would never Tweet nor feel the need to be “connected” 24/7. Hope this gives some insight on your Tweeting actions.
Thanks for the forum.
Take careful.
To Alison:
I wish someone would have given me a hint about the taking of your husband’s name and how to deal with Post nuptial agreements.
First please legally take your husband’s name – it will help solidify the family and also remove your inlaws thoughts about it. You can still “use” your “Rosen” as your stage name / brand as this is affects your income stream.
Second, sit down with an 8.5 notepad and write all of the material things that you brought to the marriage – write down the amount in your savings/checking/investment portfolio and do the same for your husband. Then agree that if things “don’t work out” then each of you get back the starting point of the monetary funds. You must also record any debt that you brought to the marriage and agree that you will take that back if things do not “work out”. Then agree to pool all of the money so that you both invest and purchase a home as if you both will celebrate a 50yr anniversary.
The legal problem if you do not do the above, is that CA law states that you must split money 50/50 of all monies earned after marriage and also “comingled” assets. My suggestion will allow the stress to be removed from the resentment of who brought what to the party.
Hope you post this – as I listen to your show and heard you all discussing this – and it seemed that you did not know the reality of the money issue of marriage.
The marriage contract is just that – a business contract. If you do not have things in writing – then you are stuck with the divorce laws – unless you can agree amicably.
Also – in doing this – it frees up the resentment if one of you brings more money to the party at the beginning. You will both then focus on building a life and investments that can be used for the future and you will always know the starting point.
I have done this with my second wife and it made sense. Her school debt was hers – my house was mine – what we grow together after the marriage is “ours”.
Then you can combine the bank accounts and leave each of yourselves a “personal/play” account for buying gifts and for personal vices.-
Without this – your are still living like “roommates with benefits”.
Good luck and take careful – I hope you post this.
Hey Alison,
Not that you were asking for advice regarding whether to change your name or not, I thought I would give you an alternative opinion from someone who was in the position of giving up or not giving up my last name (since advice from someone who never had to make that choice is … well, anyway… If becoming Daniel's chattel is necessary to “solidify” your relationship, then you should run, not walk away from that “union”. Which I don't think you feel in any way. If you wanted to take his name, then do it, if it feels weird or antiquated to you nothing could be less relevant to how solid your relationship with Daniel is. I actually have more long term married friends who both kept their identities than I do friends who became Mr & Mrs Smith. Your relationship is your relationship, and you changing your last name *shouldn't* have any impact on it.
Good luck on what you decide to do regarding money. My Dad always counseled his daughters to keep their own bank accounts. I have found this to be one of the best bits of advice I got from Dear Old Dad. We set up a joint “house” account to pay for things we shared the financial responsibility for i.e. mortgage, insurance, utilities, food etc and we both deposited our share into that account. But we fought a lot less than my friends who put their salaries in a joint account and tried to negotiate what was each persons “mad” money. I'm sure you guys will have a long wonderful marriage, you seem so suited to each other just from the glimpse you've given your fans. I'm sorry that your first wedded year was marred by sadness in any way.
Hey Alison,
Not that you were asking for advice regarding whether to change your name or not, I thought I would give you an alternative opinion from someone who was in the position of giving up or not giving up my last name (since advice from someone who never had to make that choice is … well, anyway… If becoming Daniel’s chattel is necessary to “solidify” your relationship, then you should run, not walk away from that “union”. Which I don’t think you feel in any way. If you wanted to take his name, then do it, if it feels weird or antiquated to you nothing could be less relevant to how solid your relationship with Daniel is. I actually have more long term married friends who both kept their identities than I do friends who became Mr & Mrs Smith. Your relationship is your relationship, and you changing your last name *shouldn’t* have any impact on it.
Good luck on what you decide to do regarding money. My Dad always counseled his daughters to keep their own bank accounts. I have found this to be one of the best bits of advice I got from Dear Old Dad. We set up a joint “house” account to pay for things we shared the financial responsibility for i.e. mortgage, insurance, utilities, food etc and we both deposited our share into that account. But we fought a lot less than my friends who put their salaries in a joint account and tried to negotiate what was each persons “mad” money. I’m sure you guys will have a long wonderful marriage, you seem so suited to each other just from the glimpse you’ve given your fans. I’m sorry that your first wedded year was marred by sadness in any way.
The Thursday show goes by too fast… Any way we can get Adam to give you a raise and up your show to 3 times a week, or have a full length show on Thursday???
The Thursday show goes by too fast… Any way we can get Adam to give you a raise and up your show to 3 times a week, or have a full length show on Thursday???